Here’s something I started from March 5th and left unfinished:
This is a post of appreciation for all the great things in my life right now.
First and foremost is my wonderful husband. He is a nut. A clean freak true and true. He willingly and obsessively keeps our kitchen clean, makes our bed, and does laundry. So much that in the beginning I yelled at him to stop doing laundry, as there was such a backlog of clean clothes piling up for me to put away. And I’m really bad at putting things away when I’m short on time. So he stopped doing laundry for a little while, until I realized why he did so much laundry: because he runs out of underwear! Here I am with my drawer full of probably 100 pairs of underwear (literally), so laundry is never a concern for me. So after that, he started doing laundry again, and I shut my mouth (for the most part).
In addition to his cleanliness, he is also handy. He fixes everything that possibly needs fixing. So much that I, again, yelled at him for trying to fix our detergent pump that I bought from Superstore, which spontaneously stopped pumping after a weekend away. He took it apart, and was unable to put it back together, and it stopped working all together, and started pumping the opposite way. We fought over that, then ended up buying a new pump, and swapping it with our old one. $7 fight. But really, he has put everything together in this home: all our Ikea stuff, my shelves, our bed, shower curtain rod, barbecue, everything. Not to mention, he also services our car, Suz.
As if that weren’t enough, he cooks! He cooks for us probably about the same amount I do the cooking, even though he works 6 days a week in the evenings. And not instant pre-packaged stuff, but real recipes that he takes the time to pick out and follow to a t. (He is the master Chinese cuisine cook between the two of us.) How great is this guy? Then, when I come home from a shift, and have to jump into the shower, he will get stuff ready, and we will snuggle on the couch for some late supper, episodes of HIMYM, and a foot massage.
He is also hilarious. He loves that I laugh at everything he does, but a lot of people love him for his lame humour and his relentless attempts to make anyone crack a smile. My funny Muscles (the name I tease him with, because obviously, his motto is “I love to exercise,” which equates to his love for eating), who is currently doing his P90X in front of me. I should remind myself how lucky I am more often, and never forget that I have such a great man to spend the rest of my life with.
I have a lot of senior patients, and in trying to build rapport with them, I will ask them about their family and living situation. If it’s an elderly female, usually her husband has passed away. Occasionally, I will see the husband coming in to visit and caring for the wife, but that is rare, and a very heartwarming sight. If it’s an elderly male, usually the wife is living in the community supported by their kids, or in a nursing home, or sometimes even in hospital as well. I told J last night that one of my patients had his wife on a different floor of the hospital, both in for their own health issues, and I wondered if that would ever happen to us. Once, we even had husband and wife both admitted to our unit in different rooms. It was nice, because the wife could come visit her husband, who has been in there for months and months. Otherwise, they don’t see each other, because her mobility is impaired, and she depends on her busy children to make the visits happen. And one other time, like a true love story, another married couple happened to be admitted for different surgeries and the managers arranged for them to be able to share a room, beds side by side. It was the sweetest thing, though a potential liability issue as well.
I don’t look forward to this, and don’t like thinking that one day this perfect life will be a memory, and we will be at the mercy of our old age. J says that we will live our years together till the end, because he is hopeful and optimistic. I would like to be too, except that 90% of my patients do not live this way, and are elderly. Otherwise, they would be healthy and not in hospital. Maybe I only get to witness the unhealthy of the elderly population, but in a sense I also have a vision of reality and old age. Who knows, maybe with more social consciousness about fitness, nutrition, and activity in old age, things will be better, but it’s hard to say with all the processed foods we consume and the radiation everywhere. Cancer will get us all eventually.
On a related note, after years, my mother will finally have her long-awaited colonoscopy. We have a strong cancer history in my family, and my grandmother died of colorectal cancer. Working in general surgery, I have lots of exposure to bowel cancers, and have seen patients come in time and time again for resections and ostomies as a result of finding polyps or masses after a colonoscopy, if not suffering form a bleed first. Mom has been scared of this forever, and had cancelled a referral years ago, reasoning that she didn’t want a male doctor doing it. Obviously, the root of the matter is that she doesn’t want to find out. She has a history of symptoms already, and has tried to treat herself by eating a healthier diet, but only the test can tell what is there. So I’m driving her next week, and have to say that I am a bit anxious about the results. If she is like the lot that I have seen, worst case scenario is that she will have surgery and maybe follow-up treatment. I know she is strong enough to handle it, but I just don’t want her spirits to go down, as she is already a very negative person. You can’t mope when it comes to this stuff, because it’s your will to live and rehabilitate that will get you through it. I think this is when the daughter in me needs to step up and be loving and supportive. I pray it will be okay.
We are going on a family cruise, as I have mentioned, in a few weeks. Yay! It is 1 week in the Caribbean, and a few days in Florida to spend time with cousins who are living out there temporarily. We are all so excited, as this is a first time for such a complete family trip. A few other cousins and families are joining us for more company and fun. I was able to reschedule some shifts to be able to make it happen. I’ve also bought 2 new bathing suits (Wal-mart is awesome) that I couldn’t resist. All that’s left is to try not to be so chunky before the trip, as I plan to eat my butt off (as do my other half and the rest of my family) on the cruise. I feel it’s a bit late to make a drastic change or difference before the trip, but I can at least try not to be too gluttonous before, because I will surely regret it when I need to put the bathing suit on to go to the beach.
I’m half cleaning up my laundry (was inspired), browsing iTunes (listening to Adele–how amazing is she for a 21-year-old??) and writing this as I go about my free day today. Man, I have tons of clothes. I am truly a materialistic person, and I regret it, but at the same time don’t really care to change, because I also enjoy it. I’m a girly girl, and I like my pretty things. Slowly, I am putting aside things to give away to charity, and some to try to get a consignment store to sell so I can make some cashola. J’s stuff too, though he is obviously more minimalistic than I am. He does have a fondness for shoes though.
Other good things in life? Our home. I love our home. We are so blessed to have found it and to have such an easygoing landlord. We don’t plan on moving anytime soon. I need to start making some money for a down payment when we are ready to start looking. That will be a new and exciting time. Who knows, it might be when I am pregnant and we’re ready to spawn. Our health is another blessing. Our families are supportive and loving, always there for us.
Our jobs. J is so lucky to have a stable job that he loves. He is so energized and passionate about teaching his craft, and I envy that and love that about him. I feel am passionate about where I am, and more often than not it energizes me when I connect with patients, make a difference in their day and their health.
To be continued! Life got busy, and things needed to get done!